Leave him. Right now. No question. This is disgusting. Fucking get out of there.
A SAFEWORD IS NOT A PRIVILEGE. IT IS A FUCKING RIGHT AND ANYONE WHO TELLS YOU OTHERWISE IS AN ABUSIVE PRICK.
I am breaking hiatus to address this.
SF IS RIGHT DUMP HIS SORRY ASS AND RUN THE FUCK AWAY.
That is incredibly disrespectful of you on multiple levels, get the fuck away from him. A safeword is yours and yours alone, NEVER to be taken away or used against you. That he would even think of telling you that is a huge sign that he doesn’t give a crap what you want, only what he wants.
LEAVE HIS ABUSIVE ASS.
I’m sorry you had to realize it like this, but it’s the truth. He is abusive if he treats you like that, and you mustn’t let yourself be used and treated like that. Please be safe, please don’t go back to that bastard.
I was just calmly perusing my dashboard and was not going to post anything tonight, but ^^ this HAS to be spread and be seen by as many as possible. I can add nothing better than what Miss Jessica said. D/s and bdsm are not abuse, they can be a beautiful expression of love and trust. Do not ever let anyone abuse you. If it feels wrong, ask someone. Better, if it feels wrong get the heck out and then ask someone if you are unsure.